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Why She Won't Wear Hijab!

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A conversation for Muslim sisters:

"I'm so tired."

"Tired of what?"

"Of all these people judging me."

"Who judged you?"

"Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab."

"Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!"

"Yeah! I listen to music without hijab... haha!"

"Maybe she was just giving you advice."

"I don't need her advice. I know my religion. Can't she mind her own business?"

"Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice."

"Keeping out of my business, that would be nice..."

"But it's her duty to encourage you do to good."

"Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean 'good'?"

"Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do."

"Says who?"

"It's in the Quran, isn't it?"

"Yes. She did quote me something."

"She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Quran."

"Yes, but it's not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important."

"True. But big things start with small things."

"That's a good point, but what you wear is not important. What's important is to have a good healthy heart."

"What you wear is not important?"

"That's what I said."

"Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?"

"What do you mean?"

"You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting."

"So?"

"So, your appearance IS important."

"No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion."

"If it's not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Noble Quran?"

"You know I can't follow all that's in Quran."

"You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it's OK?"

"Yes. God is forgiving."

"God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes."

"Says who?"

"Says the same book that tells you to cover."

"But I don't like hijab, it limits my freedom."

"But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What's your definition of freedom anyway?"

"Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do."

"No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do."

"Look! I've seen so many people who don't wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people."

"So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point."

"I don't want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I'm OK the way I am without hijab."

"Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God."

"You don't get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!"

"So all these people with hijab never get married?!"

"Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn't like it? And wants me to remove it?"

"What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!"

"That's irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime."

"Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?"

"But then who would hire me?"

"A company that respects people for who they are."

"Not after 9-11"

Yes. After 9-11. Don't you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab... ummm..."

"Yasmin?"

"Yes. Yasmin. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE."

"Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?"


 
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"Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?"

"You didn't answer my question."

"In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants..."

"That's called 'fashion', you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women."

"Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab."

"Yes. That's what it is."

"What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?"

"Well, that's different."

"What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab... she was a woman, right?"

"Right, but..."

"But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!"

"Wait, let me finish, I was saying..."

"Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?"

"Yes."

"Specifically how?"

"By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!"

"Doesn't TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be 'attractive'?"

"Of course, it's fashion."

"Isn't that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?"

[Silence]

"Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market."

"What do you mean?"

"I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products."

"I don't get it. What does hijab have to do with products.

"It has everything to do with that. Don't you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men... and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks."

"Like I don't have to buy hijab? Isn't hijab a product?"

"Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism."

"Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB!

It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society... Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!"

"Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day."

"Fine."

"Fine."

[Silence]

"Shut up and I don't want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab!"

[Silence]

She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time.

Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society - but rejected by the Faith:

"Yes!" - to curls on the hair - "No!" - to hijab!



"Headscarf Princesses"
Courtesy of Nayzak on deviantArt
Allah
سبحانه و تعالى​
says in the Noble Quran:
"And he (/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts his own self!" [Surah ash-Shams - 91:10]
"Nay! You prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and more lasting." [Surah al-A'laa - 87:16-17]
 
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Alhamdulillah.. you really should thank Allah if you are wearing Hijab, it is a blessing and not something that restricts your freedom...not at all!
Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillah.. Thank you Allah :)

yeh ALHAMDULILLAH.. i try my best to wear at as many places as i can ... but sometimes i don't... may ALLAH show me the straight path AMEEN :)
 

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yeh ALHAMDULILLAH.. i try my best to wear at as many places as i can ... but sometimes i don't... may ALLAH show me the straight path AMEEN :)
Aameen...
n jazakillah for the article.. it is worth the read.
sorry to bump in but there is one thing I'd like to tell you from experience... when you try to follow a command of Allah, its hard especially in the start... then it becomes easy as you are used to obeying Allah.... So be strong initially, Alhamdulillah, you have taken such a good step now hold fast to it, don't compromise... wear it everywhere outside... coz when we disobey Allah we forget at that moment our death and the day of judgment... Like if we died in a state of disobediance to Allah then we will be raised up like that... Prophet (S.A.W) said, concerning one who died in a state of ihraam: “Wash him with water and lotus leaves, and shroud him in two garments, and do not put perfume on him … for Allaah will raise him up on the Day of Resurrection reciting the Talbiyah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1265; Muslim, 1206.
none of us are perfect we sin a lot, but we must try to get away from them coz we don't wanna die in a state of disobediance to Allah... :cry:
so just remember that and don't listen to anyone like friends etc who tell you to disobey Allah... coz for me peer pressure used to be wht wd put me in compromising situations...
 
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Aameen...
n jazakillah for the article.. it is worth the read.
sorry to bump in but there is one thing I'd like to tell you from experience... when you try to follow a command of Allah, its hard especially in the start... then it becomes easy as you are used to obeying Allah.... So be strong initially, Alhamdulillah, you have taken such a good step now hold fast to it, don't compromise... wear it everywhere outside... coz when we disobey Allah we forget at that moment our death and the day of judgment... Like if we died in a state of disobediance to Allah then we will be raised up like that... Prophet (S.A.W) said, concerning one who died in a state of ihraam: “Wash him with water and lotus leaves, and shroud him in two garments, and do not put perfume on him … for Allaah will raise him up on the Day of Resurrection reciting the Talbiyah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1265; Muslim, 1206.
none of us are perfect we sin a lot, but we must try to get away from them coz we don't wanna die in a state of disobediance to Allah... :cry:
so just remember that and don't listen to anyone like friends etc who tell you to disobey Allah... coz for me peer pressure used to be wht wd put me in compromising situations...

wa eyyakum bro.. and no problem but i think ur this piece of writing is quite effective and yeh INSHALLAH INSHALLAH now i'll try my best to wear outside where ever i go.. JAZAKALLAH bro .. maybe only this thing was lacking and u have completed it.. JAZAKALLAH again :):)
 
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Lovely article. Jazakallah for sharing! Inshallah you'll become a full-time Hijabi soon Inshallah sis :D Ameen <3 May ALlah help you and all others trying it.

One thing is, I HATE the attitude people have to Hijab. I mean other MUSLIM people. =/ Not that it detters me Alhamdulillah because I care more for what my Lord says and not the world, but it's still wierd. I mean, if you (or your sisters, mom, etc.) don't do Hijab, AT LEAST respect others and don't discriminate!
 

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Lovely article. Jazakallah for sharing! Inshallah you'll become a full-time Hijabi soon Inshallah sis :D Ameen <3 May ALlah help you and all others trying it.

One thing is, I HATE the attitude people have to Hijab. I mean other MUSLIM people. =/ Not that it detters me Alhamdulillah because I care more for what my Lord says and not the world, but it's still wierd. I mean, if you (or your sisters, mom, etc.) don't do Hijab, AT LEAST respect others and don't discriminate!

I actually don't mind if ppl talk about something I do for Allah, or even call out names n stuff.... RasoolAllah (S.A.W) said “Islam began as something strange and will revert to being strange as it began, so give glad tidings to the strangers.”
(Sahih Muslim)
So the fact that they say m weird is something good... :D XD

 
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I actually don't mind if ppl talk about something I do for Allah, or even call out names n stuff.... RasoolAllah (S.A.W) said “Islam began as something strange and will revert to being strange as it began, so give glad tidings to the strangers.”
(Sahih Muslim)
So the fact that they say m weird is something good... :D XD

Neither do I, but I get mad if MUSLIM people don't 'respect' it or discriminate because of it. Others are understandable.
And lol! I like your thinking :D Awesome hai (y) MashAllah!

Jazakallah for the video. Will watch it asap Inshallah after Iftar ^^
 

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Neither do I, but I get mad if MUSLIM people don't 'respect' it or discriminate because of it. Others are understandable.
And lol! I like your thinking :D Awesome hai (y) MashAllah!

Jazakallah for the video. Will watch it asap Inshallah after Iftar ^^
yes, I don't mind about muslims too, Alhamdulillah.. :p Some ppl aren't brought up the way you are, or they don't have the awesome teachers that shaped your thoughts... or shytaan just has too firm a grip on them... so we must try to not be mad at them.... sometimes it gets on my nerves too but when I think about it later, I say maybe they have had some bad experiences in life... who knows.. maybe Allah will guide them some day..
wa iyyakum...
 
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