Love

[FeLiX zoe]

There are two stages which human faces in his/her life.
Infactuation: It's the term when one 'thinks' he/she is in love. This happens with most of the teenagers, usually referred as 'love at first sight'.
Sadly, It's merely a crush. While going through some facts, I found out that crush doesn't last more than 4 months to any individual. The period exceeding 4 months is indeed, what we call- 'love'.

Are you sure a crush is something that exists just for 4 moths!!??? :S

 

[SalmanPakRocks]

Are you sure a crush is something that exists just for 4 moths!!??? :S

Yes!

 

[alphabravocharlie]

There are two stages which human faces in his/her life.
Infactuation: It's the term when one 'thinks' he/she is in love. This happens with most of the teenagers, usually referred as 'love at first sight'.
Sadly, It's merely a crush. While going through some facts, I found out that crush doesn't last more than 4 months to any individual. The period exceeding 4 months is indeed, what we call- 'love'.

true that

 

[FeLiX zoe]

Crush is not something really true it is just a mere dumb feeling that causes just pain . And most of us have this, it is quite natural but every crush does not become a love. True love is the love that comes after marriage (between a husband and a wife).​

and Love not allowed for us Muslims as Allah tells in Quraan in suran Noor about lowering your gaze for both mena and women​

What do these Ayah's mean????​

“The ayats in Sura Nur about lowering our gazes doesn’t affect me anymore,” expressed another youth, talking about the intense temptations felt by today’s young. Difficulty in lowering the gaze by both the young and old is readily perceived on the street, weddings, parties and even in the mosques. What has gone wrong? How can Muslims, called by Allah, our Creator the model community, the custodians of Truth and the upholders of morality behave this way? Why are we adopting the attitudes and routes of the kuffar? How can we rectify ourselves? What follows is a series of practical, though graphic advises which can work for us and set us free from Satan’s stronghold, Insha`Allah.​

When Allah created humans with all our desires and urges, he also revealed to us sufficient and complete guidance to properly channel these desires, both in the midst of Dar-ul-Kufr or Dar-ul-Islam. All we need to do is seek it, contemplate on it and pursue it. “This day I have perfected your deen for you, completed my favours upon you and chosen Islam as your deen.” (Maida).​

When confronted with an alluring situation like passing by a non-mahram on the street, office or school, Satan is constantly tempting us to glare at her/him with evil thoughts. Satan is probably excitingly saying, with a big smile, ‘yes, yes, yes,’ when we steer into the bait he is setting. During these situations, immediately and consciously realize that when we give a second or following glances, we are obeying Satan. “O you who believe, follow not the footsteps of the devil”. (24:21). By immediately averting our gazes and disobeying Satan, we are giving him a one-two punch in the face and leaving him frustrated and accursed.​

Satan rebelled and was expelled by Allah, so let’s all rebel against Satan and expel him from our hearts. Satan intends to fight a war against Muslims, so let’s gather our forces behind the Qur`an and the Sunnah and defeat him. Remember that even if no human eye is watching us, the Ever-Watchful Allah is constantly monitoring the innermost regions of our hearts. Our eyes, limbs, tongue and private parts will be witnesses on the Judgment Day and not an atom’s worth of deed will remain unexamined.​

Our minds are conditioned to associate thoughts of stealing clothes from a store to being in handcuffs and hauled into a police van. Likewise we should condition our minds to bring the verses of Surah Nur in front of our eyes during any tempting situations and imagine that Allah is speaking to us directly “Say to the believing, men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty. O you believers! Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain success” (24:30-31). If the Qur`an contained only these two ayats, it would be enough to convince me that it is the book of Allah.​

With practice, these associations and the remembrance of Allah during tempting situations will prevent us from getting stuck by devilish arrows. Successfully controlling our gazes also deadens our avoidance of sinful situations. An Islamic idiom says, “Anything that leads to haram is haram in itself.” To do a pious deed is a reward; to avoid a sin is a reward too. One of the biggest culprits in this class is movies. In the name of entertainment, to please our peers and children and an excuse to do something together as a family, we astonishingly allow un-Islamic pictures and dialogues in front of our eyes and ears. Can we ever imagine the Prophet or our Imams (aozubillah) renting the latest hit from Blockbuster Videos, or listening to music with alluring lyrics at high volume?​

In our wedding ceremonies and parties and even in many Islamic fundraising dinners, there is heavy free-mixing between brothers and sisters. Often the chairs of males and females are arranged facing each other, knowing that about 90 percent of our sisters do no wear proper Islamic hijab. Perfume, make-up, tight fitting clothes and much more is always around. It is often noticeable to see males and females peeking glances at each other from the opposite ends of the hall. A big curtain is not my intention, but a big and befitting Islamic manners is.​

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Crush and love just causes a lot of suspicion(trust me this is so true! )​

Let us contemplate the above humble advices and constantly make the supplication, “O Allah help us control our sensual desires until we get married, and even after we marry, let our desires be only towards our spouses.”​

 

[HauteHijabii]

True Love?​

By Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim​

In today's world, a lot of young people are afflicted by a serious illness that is even more deadly than any virus or bacteria. It is an illness that affects the heart and will cause its death, if not treated.

This illness is none other than love before marriage, and it is with great sadness that a lot of youth fail to realize that in reality there is no such thing as "true" love before marriage, yes, there might be crushes, infatuations and the likes, but true love? No.

Some people might argue and say, how can you make such a bold statement? To that I reply, love is what creates happiness not sorrow, love is what gives you a peace of mind not worry and anguish but most importantly, love is that which brings you closer to Allaah the Most High, not that which will push you further away from Him and acquire His wrath.

Yet there are a few brothers and sisters, who truly love Allaah, only to find their hearts crippled by this disease, they have apparently fallen in "love" with the opposite gender (before marriage) and can't seem to stop thinking about them, they lose their appetite, their sleep and become neglectful of life as a whole.

These individuals sometimes regret falling in love and want a way out, they want a cure for this illness, but is there really a cure?

Listen to what Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim has to say:

"And the cure for this deadly illness (i.e. love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance.

So upon such a person is to first and foremost strengthen their Tawheed (Monotheism and the Belief in One God.) and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not have any spare time letting their minds wander and think about their beloved.

And they should call upon Allaah to protect them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlaas (sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.

This is because if the heart is filled with ikhlaas for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no ikhlaas whatsoever.

And let such people remind themselves that whatever Allaah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests, and when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves.

And let them also remind themselves that their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of the creation instead of love for the Creator!

These people need to be reminded, that the one who is emerged in something will never see its ill effects, neither will the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is." [ad-Daa' wa ad-Dawaa p. 300]

Best Reply Mashallah

 

[HauteHijabii]

But the love I was looking has Betrayed me and there is no u way to use that Love again for someone else ... It is just like a Chewing GuM

Lamer

 

[Adzy1794]

exactly! if u really love someone... u wanna see dem happy... however dey want to be happy.. NOT force dem to do wat makes U happy

Haha,this relates to soo many of those bollywood movies...just wanted to say

 

[Adzy1794]

In love,one can say this to the other person:

You are the life jacket for my boat....or, you're the chewing to my gum lol

 

[Bilal Khan]

well i believe love does exist... and the feeling is quite different.. and when u lose the one u love it all feels incomplete and u are hurt from the inside blaming urself that maybe u were wrong and u were not perfect enough to be loved.. The feeling is quite unique..

Really???

 

[Bilal Khan]

well yes....
but what i basically meant dere is u cant/shouldn't FORCE love on someone...

Damn True!!!

 

[Bilal Khan]

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

 

[Maimoona Sohail]

Really???

yessss really...

 

[Bilal Khan]

yessss really...

well.i dont know,i have never fallen in love.
but i dont completely agree with u.

 

[S.Mashaal.N]

Love is a feeling that most certainly exists....When a person can value a certain someone's happiness over their own, when a person is willing to do anything and everything just to see a certain someone smile, when a person can let go of that certain someone for their own good, that's the feeling we ought to label as 'love'....the naive teens of today often misunderstand that love is when a boy and a girl are in relationship but infact, love is the feeling that exists in one's heart....one does not need to be in any sort of relationship to love the other...i believe for one's love to work out, it has to be the right way! love can b of different types, love between a child and his parents, love between sibling, between frnds and the kind of love that comes in the mind of most of us when we read the very word itself....in all kind of loves, honesty, loyalty, trust and UNDERSTANDING are the most essential of traits...

 

[Maimoona Sohail]

well.i dont know,i have never fallen in love.
but i dont completely agree with u.

well when u will fall in love u would know how it feels..

 

[ExoticPlayer09]

Bestfriends FTW xD

 

[S.Mashaal.N]

Bestfriends FTW xD

haha truee!!
however sometimes, the so called "bestfriends"can prove to be the worst of friends, you know :/ well of course, in that case they aren't the best friends we thought them to be, isn't it

 

[ExoticPlayer09]

haha truee!!
however sometimes, the so called "bestfriends"can prove to be the worst of friends, you know :/ well of course, in that case they aren't the best friends we thought them to be, isn't it

I agree Sometimes it can get too worse, and at times it can take a step further and change into a much closer relation

 

[S.Mashaal.N]

I agree Sometimes it can get too worse, and at times it can take a step further and change into a much closer relation

exactly my point! if it deepens and becomes a stronger bond, then we must call it a wise step by those blessed with wisdom and 'love' for each other

 

[ExoticPlayer09]

exactly my point! if it deepens and becomes a stronger bond, then we must call it a wise step by those blessed with wisdom and 'love' for each other

True, but the thing is these days people get mistaken easily. Many of them just get in it without thinking and they end up broken. Love exists, but seeing a girl, and in the first glance, you decide to go in a relation with her, this is completely stupid.
''Don't judge a book by its cover''. People should learn to go after personality and character rather than Looks